To live in this world you must be able to do three things:—Mary Oliver
To love what is mortal;
To hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it;
and when the time comes to let it go, to let it go.
“You can break a man’s heart in many ways. It happens every day, in varying degrees, and there’s always a chance I might do it again. But we destroy men in a very specific way, in denying the idea that they ever had a heart in the first place. We silently give value to the crippling social constraints they are put in, the ones which tell them that to feel anything at all is dangerous and harmful to their masculinity.”—Chelsea Fagan, How to Break a Man’s Heart
“I can love you because I want to feel less alone, or I can love you because I want you to feel less alone. But only the latter requires me to imagine a consciousness independent of my own, and equally real.”—Garth Risk Hallberg, “Why Write Novels at All?“, The New York Times